From the minute the wedding invitation meets your hands, there is much excitement leading up to the event. There aren’t many people who can say they don’t enjoy attending a wedding, but there may be many who don’t enjoy figuring out what to wear to the wedding. Most couples provide all of the details you need to know in the invitation but forget to add the dress code. This can sometimes cause a bit of confusion for you as the guest. In this article, we come to the rescue with a few great wedding guest style tips to help guests decide what to wear and to help brides come up with a good dress code for her wedding invite.
The Black Tux is a snazzy online store that offers a stylish collection of modern formal wear for the men in your life. They have shared with us their wedding guest style guide for both men and women. This guide is a great tool for both brides coming up with a dress code to suit their wedding, as well as guests who aren’t too sure of what to wear.
The age old universal rules of dress etiquette still apply today. These would include:
Don’t wear white or any other shade that is close to white, that is reserved for the bride ONLY.
Don’t wear anything too short or revealing.
Don’t wear anything in the same color as the wedding colors, that is reserved for the bridal party and family only.
Look respectable no matter what your personal style may be.
Some of these rules have changed over time and continue to change as weddings take on a variety of different themes in some less than traditional locations. A great general rule wold be to stick to the dress code if you have been given one. If you haven’t been given a dress code in the wedding invitation, here are a few things to bare in mind when looking for an appropriate outfit:
Dress for the season and location. If you know it will be an outdoor wedding, be sure to choose your shoes wisely ladies.
Dress comfortably, you want to enjoy the reception dancing up a storm to your favorite song, even if this means bringing along a change of shoes.
Be respectful of the bridal couple and their family, if you know they wouldn’t approve of your outfit, then don’t wear it.
Coordinate with your date. You are sure to be the couple who turn heads in complementing colors and patterns.
If you are still in doubt and can’t decide what to wear, rather choose to overdress than underdress. It’s much better to be the only man with a tie, rather than the only one without.
2015 was a blur. Filled with fleeting moments like these. Looking over our past year in work it is hard not to break into song… 525600 minutes. RENT fans know what I’m talking about. “How do you measure the life of a woman or a man?” For those of you who now have that song stuck in your head, you’re welcome! Anyway, I find that question both haunting and challenging at the same time. Time is the universal currency and it is in limited supply. A concept Mr. J. Timberlake helped me grasp thanks to his movie “In Time.” Side note: If you haven’t figured out that Katie and I are movie buffs, well, we are! What else do you do during late night Lightroom marathons?
Putting this post together is never easy; life is messy and it’s filled with ugly crying, but also belly laughing with pig snorts. Those are my personal favorites. My life, had it been captured to the degree we capture a wedding day, would be filled with candid raw emotion and a full toddler tantrums to boot.
When we pull our digital shoebox out 20 years from now, we want to cry, laugh, and then cry some more – all the while seeing the beauty that is in the chaos – the imperfection, those in between moments. We will ask, “where did the time go?” as we look into each other’s now middle aged faces, filled with more laugh lines I hope. I know I will wish we could go back to in time, yet we know the best is still ahead. I wonder what advice my older self would give to me now. What things will matter then?
The beauty is truly in the journey, not the destination and your wedding is one day of adventure you’ll want to remember for the rest of your life! Katie and I have a total of 40 images from our wedding in 2007. We have one on display in our home. Our goal, our passion, is to capture a wedding like it was our own and treat every couple as if it was us. Our style is James & Katie; it is what we would want had we the opportunity to do it all over again, we wouldn’t but we joke about it.
I can tell you that we were concerned with things that now we laugh about. I wish we had spent more time together and less time worrying. It all turned out and after 8 years of marriage we’re still figuring things out, we don’t have it all together, but we have each other. That makes everything worth it and we wouldn’t change a thing.
Happy 2016! We have so much to be grateful for. Live a #LifeRevered.
An interview with Photographers Katie and James Stokes
It seems like wedding photos have changed so much compared to years ago! -from portrait to photojournalism/candids. These aren’t our grandma’s wedding portraits!
“Looking over our own grandparent’s albums we can sure see how things have changed due greatly to advances in digital photography and computers. Their portraits were done in black and white with oil paints to add a splash of color. This was Photoshop 60 years ago. It was out of necessity that portraits were very staged and formal, often couples would have to visit a studio on their wedding day…”
What is it about candids that make photography so special?
“Candids, much like the word, are honest and raw. They happen without your knowledge and often showcase true emotion that can’t be replicated. Life is full of these moments, but it is the job of a photographer to capture them in a way that stirs an emotion worth remembering. While photography can capture beauty and perfection, true candids can’t be scripted and aren’t without flaws. When we look back at our wedding or our life, we don’t just want to remember the perfect highlights, we want to be see the journey in all fullness, tears and ugly crying included.”
What are the key elements that make for a great photo?
“You could ask one hundred people and get a different answer from everyone, but ultimately beauty is in the eye of the beholder. A soft, blurry, grain-filled photograph of your great grandmother on her wedding may have more value than that of a perfectly crafted image of your half-eaten gourmet sandwich you post on Instagram. That being said, a great photo needs an interesting subject. I happen to really like faces. Second, all photographs need light. We happen to love naturally well-lit images. Like light, color has a way of evoking our emotions and is crucial to telling a cohesive story, but a great photo is one that is relevant now and in 50 years. Timing and composition, while important, vary based on style and personal preference, but placing your subject well within a frame that causes your eye to immediately see what the artist was focusing on is key to creating a great photo. I happen to really like the rule of thirds and the golden spiral.”
What are some of your favorite nontraditional photos/poses to take of couples?
“…My favorite pose is when couples are looking directly into each other’s eyes. You can’t help but smile when you have to look at someone you love, especially on your wedding day. Often this naturally leads to a kiss…”
What’s the best part of being a part of a husband-wife photography team?
“Over the past seven years, we have seen our fair share of weddings and honestly one of my most favorite things is hearing couple dedicate themselves to each other Saturday reminding us of the vows we took in 2007. Furthermore, we just like having the opportunity of spending our days together surrounded by incredible people, beautiful venues, and couples madly in love. Over time we have learned each other’s own personal shooting style and preferences, which have allowed us to simply trust in our strengths and focus on serving our clients well. We truly are a team.”
Any guesses on what the next big trend for wedding photography will be?
“I think that we will continue to see rustic outdoor and barn weddings in the near future, but I think that many couples are looking for ways to break the mold, creating more of a laid back, less traditional feel, sometimes skipping the formal ceremony altogether. We’re seeing couples having a destination wedding from the city and investing in a weekend away with friends and family at lake camps and resorts. They are using the natural beauty of Wisconsin as their backdrop with a minimalist approach contrasting the woodsy canvas with lots of glitter, copper, silver and gold. Couples are looking for unique way for their guests to enjoy themselves throughout the evening and a venue with an open air space with yard games, music, and great food is something we hope to much more of in 2016. Instead of a barn wedding, couples are moving toward lofts, museums, and restaurants for a cohesive urban wedding experience.”
Anything else you’d like to share with couples-to-be?
“Ten years from now very few couples are going to remember what sat on the cake table or what types of flowers were in the center pieces, but they’re going to remember how they felt on their wedding day. We encourage our couples to make time for each other and their loved ones on their wedding day. So often they day is whirlwind of emotions and logistics, but very little time for reflection, meditation and prayer. You’re making the biggest decision of your life on your wedding day and it should be revered and held above all the rest. Invest the time in your marriage with the same fervor as your wedding and remind yourself often of your commitment. Looking back, you may have the most beautiful photographs in the world, but if you don’t have the positive emotions to go with them, they’re worthless.”